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Carving out a community in the Men’s Shed

For our second blog this Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, we paid a visit to one of Action Mental Health’s three Men’s Sheds, to chat with the members and find out why they love going along…

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(L-R) Seamus, Sean, Russell, David, Eric, Chris, Joe and Gerry.

Known affectionately as ‘the Shedders,’ the team at Men’s Shed Steeple Antrim, which sees an average 15-20 people attend four days a week, are a very welcoming – and busy – bunch. With a focus on fun, friendship and learning new skills, the Shedders do everything from woodcarving, photography and cooking to singing, pyrography and much more.

Having won the Community Champion award from the South Antrim Community network in 2024 for “creating opportunities to build capacity or bring innovative ideas to the community,” this is a group which benefits both members and the wider community.

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Gerry is a longstanding member of Men’s Shed Steeple Antrim.

It’s clear from the outset just how much everyone enjoys coming to the Shed during the week, with one member saying that, “We have a great community.” Other members add that the Men’s Shed “gives us a purpose” and that “it’s all about having fun.”

A longstanding member of Men’s Shed Steeple Antrim, Gerry was one of the first to join the group, when it launched around a decade ago. The Men’s Shed phenomenon had reached Northern Ireland and Action Mental Health decided to set one up in Antrim. Having recently retired, Gerry found out about the plans for the Steeple Antrim Shed from his daughter, who was working at Action Mental Health at the time. She suggested he go along but he wasn’t very keen, initially.

“I didn’t want to be retired and be around old people, so I didn’t go,” he said. “But it was going to fold if they didn’t get enough members, so I came up. I got some people to join and never looked back.”

As one of Northern Ireland’s first Men’s Sheds, he said that Antrim Steeple led the way at that time and was a great place to mix with people and meet new friends – which, of course, it still is.

“I enjoy the craic,” he said. “I was always used to getting up early for work so it’s a reason to get out of bed and come in and meet your friends in here. Some of us actually socialise outside of here as well! We’d maybe get the train to Dublin for the day.

“The craic is good and there’s the freedom to go down to the garden too, amongst the plants. What would the men be doing, otherwise?”

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Some of the Shedders’ artwork.

Magic moments down in the Shed

With recent research [1] revealing that 17% of men in Northern Ireland showed signs of loneliness in 2022/23 – 20% of these aged between 55-64 and 16% aged 65-74 years old – initiatives like the Men’s Shed are an ideal way to help combat this. Creating community spaces where men can gather to enjoy a cup of tea and some craic – as well as the opportunity to take part in a whole host of activities (optional, of course), is a concept which obviously works.

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Ronald enjoys entertaining the Shedders with magic tricks.

Ronald, who’s originally from South Africa but is now settled in Northern Ireland, joined Men’s Shed Steeple Antrim a year ago and keeps the crew entertained with his magic tricks, which he happily demonstrated during our visit.

“My library told me about the Men’s Shed, so I thought I would come and check it out,” he said. “It gets me out of the house. When I don’t come here, I go lawn bowling.”

Russell is another Shedder who has been part of the Antrim Steeple group for just over a year, having heard about it when he was seeking employment support. Describing himself as an anxious person, he said it was a couple of months before he managed to get along but that, once he did, he wished he’d done it sooner, as he enjoyed it so much.

“I was suffering from depression and anxiety,” he said. “Getting your feet in the door is the hardest part but one day I just got it into my head to go. I was walking by and called in. I wish I had done it earlier.

“I was doing courses with the ESA – getting back to work schemes – but they weren’t for me. I found this better – more relaxed. This place is completely different. You can take your time at things. When I came, I initially thought, ‘what have I got myself into here?’ I didn’t know anybody at all. It’s daunting at the start. I was always a quiet person so it’s brought me out of myself a bit.”

Explaining that his approach now in life is to take everything as it comes, Russell said that when new members come to the Shed, they can always expect to be made welcome with a cup of tea and some chat.

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Coming to the Men’s Shed has helped Russell’s confidence.

He added: “It’s up to the individual, though – you have to be ready for it. I think men don’t come sometimes because they’re scared.”

Reflecting on the fact that November is Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, Russell said he thought it was difficult with men – particularly those from previous generations – as they often bottled things up and didn’t address their mental health.

“Some older men don’t like talking about things,” he said. “They keep everything in. I didn’t talk much at the start [when I came to the Shed] because I didn’t want to bother anyone. But people listen. Everyone here’s in the same boat. They’re a good crowd of people.”

With his favourite aspect of the Men’s Shed the various activities, Russell added that he’d learned lots of new skills and done all sorts of things he’d never tried before – or thought he would, such as wood-carving and painting.

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Seamus with one of the stools he made.
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Murray making the sign for the festive post box.

“There’s always new things to try out,” he said. “For example, Francesca from Action Mental Health did a course with us that I found helped with my anxiety. I try everything. I would do a lot of the OCN courses and am part of the gardening group too. It gets your mind working again and gives you more confidence.”

At the time of our visit, the Shedders were adding the finishing touches to a Christmas post box they’d made for a local supermarket, while they also had a herd of wooden reindeer lined up and ready to go on display at the Enchanted Winter Garden in Antrim.

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The Shedders have made a festive post box for Christmas.
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Chris is a dab hand at jigsaws.

“It’s about going out into the community as well,” said one of the men. “They give us a donation but it’s not only about selling what we have. We’ll be talking about the Shed as well and letting people know about it.”

Whether it’s getting out and about to spread the word about the Men’s Shed, enjoying a cup of tea and conversation or getting stuck into gardening or general grafting, it seems the Shedders are on to a good thing…

The Shedders will be selling their Christmas crafts on Friday, November 29 at St Joseph’s Parish Community Hall in Antrim from 6pm-8pm. 

The Men’s Shed Steeple Antrim meets Monday-Wednesday and on Fridays and is funded by the National Lottery’s Community Fund.

Find out more about Men’s Shed Steeple Antrim on their Facebook page here: https://www.facebook.com/MensShedSteepleAntrim?locale=en_GB

Find out more about Action Mental Health’s other Men’s Sheds in Downpatrick and Fermanagh here: https://www.amh.org.uk/services/mens-shed/

Reference: [1] Devine, P. (2024). Men’s Health in Numbers: Northern Ireland Men’s Health Report Card 2024. Dublin: Men’s Health Forum in Ireland. Available at: https://www.mhfi.org/MensHealthInNumbers3.pdf

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Seamus shows some of the artwork the men have created.
More artwork created by the Shedders.

A restoration project the men are working on.
A ‘Chatty Bench’ handmade by the Men’s Shed.
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Focus on: Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month

While our mental health matters all-year round, dedicated awareness days, weeks and months are great for shining a spotlight on particular issues and helping to raise awareness of these. They help to get people talking about subjects previously often deemed taboo and act as signposts to vital services which can support those who are struggling.

November is one such month, with both International Stress Awareness Week, Stress Awareness Day and Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month all taking place.

According to the Office for Statistics Regulation, a review of mental health statistics in Northern Ireland shows that: “The legacy of violence and socio-economic factors are frequently cited as key contributors to poor mental health.” [1] With Northern Ireland subsequently having some of the highest rates of mental ill-health in the UK, supporting men in this area is crucial, particularly when they’re often less likely to seek help in relation to their mental health.

Research shows that in 2022, 156 men took their own lives in Northern Ireland [3] – each of these a person with friends and family who subsequently suffered a devastating loss. There are many reasons why someone may suffer from poor mental health, but opening up conversations around this is key to helping reduce the stigma around this and to encourage men to seek support.

As part of Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, it’s important to remember that both men and women experience a wide range of mental health issues. However, due to societal habits and traditions, men often don’t talk about how they feel, or seek out help when they need it.   

What men think about their mental health

Research from Priory [2], the UK’s leading independent provider of mental healthcare and adult social care, surveyed 1,000 men across the UK to find out more about how they thought about their mental health. They found that 40% of men had never spoken to anyone about their mental health, despite the fact that 77% of those polled said they had experienced symptoms of depression, anxiety and stress.

A further 40% of UK men said they would only be motivated to seek professional mental health support if they had thoughts about taking their own life, or of self-harm. The figures also revealed that the reasons men stated for not discussing their mental health or seeking help were because they felt “too embarrassed” to talk about it (29%) and because of the stigma surrounding mental health issues (20%).

Other reasons included men not wanting to be a burden on anyone else (36%), not wanting to admit that they needed support (17%) and not wanting to appear weak (14%). A further 40% said they had “learnt to deal with it,” while 14% said they had no one to talk to.”

The top causes of poor mental health in the men surveyed were:

  • Work (32%)
  • Finances (31%)
  • Health (23%)

With Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month falling just before Christmas, it’s also significant to note that amongst men aged 35-44, the pressure/cost of the festive season also contributed to their poor mental health.

Signs of poor mental health in men

While men and women experience the same symptoms for mental health conditions, the research shows that some of these are more often found in men – so it’s good to be aware of what they are.

Commonly shared symptoms include things such as feeling constantly overwhelmed and sad, withdrawing from friends and family and experiencing persistent worry. Feeling fatigued, as well as finding it difficult to concentrate and having headaches or being short of breath can also be signs to watch out for.

When it comes to men’s mental health, however, additional factors (which again, can also occur in women but are usually more prevalent in men) often include substance abuse, working obsessively and sleep issues, as well as being angry and more irritable. Men can also be more likely to engage in reckless behaviour when struggling with their mental health.

According to Devine (2024) 1,989 men were treated for problem alcohol or drug use in Northern Ireland in 2022/23, with 67% of these being males. [3]

In addition to this, it was found that “19% of men had low or medium levels of satisfaction with life, while 18% of men had a high score on the GHQ-12 scale, indicating a mental health problem. 14% of these men were aged between 35-44 or 65 years+, with 24% of them aged 45-54.”

Tips if you’re a man struggling with his mental health

There are various things you can do if you’re struggling with your mental health, one of which is speaking with a professional. Talking to anyone – be it a friend, family member, your GP or a mental health charity – is so important. Meanwhile, there are also various coping strategies which you can do on your own alongside this, to help keep support your mental health in the day-to-day.

The Five Ways to Wellbeing are a great place to start and are focused on connecting with people, getting active, taking notice of things around you, learning a new skill and giving.

Here are some ways to help your mental health, if you’re struggling:

  • Socialise: Connecting with other people gets us out of our own heads and prevents us from feeling lonely, which is when negative thoughts or bouts of ruminative thinking can often occur. By engaging with other people, be it friends, family or taking a walk and saying hello to a stranger, being social helps us keep things in perspective and reminds us that we’re not alone.
  • Be active: Whether it’s going for a run, walk or heading down to the gym, when we move, it helps us feel good, as our brain releases endorphins. So, any movement is good – just get up and go outside as a first step. Once you start moving, the next step becomes easier.
  • Reduce your alcohol intake: While socialising with friends is great, cutting down on alcohol will help your mental health, as drinking has depressive effects and, if you’re already feeling low, it will only add to this. It might be hard to say ‘no’ if you’re stressed and it’s become your go-to ‘crutch,’ but try to swap out alcohol for a soft drink or non-alcoholic version – or do something which doesn’t involve drinking at all, if you’re meeting friends.
  • Learn some relaxation techniques: If you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed then simply taking notice of five things around you – things you can touch, see, hear or smell, for example – can ground you and focus your mind in the moment. Focusing on your breathing is another good way to relax – try breathing in for a count of four and then extending your outward breath for longer than this. The longer outward breath will help you to feel more relaxed, calming your parasympathetic nervous system.

If you need someone to talk to …

If you’re struggling with your mental health, then it’s important to speak with someone – and help is out there, should you need it. If you’re in crisis, then talk to your GP, as they can diagnose conditions and outline possible treatment options. You can also contact the organisations below at any time.

  • Minding Your Head: Access information about mental health and the issues that can affect it, along with tips on how to maintain good mental health. www.mindingyourhead.info/  
  • Lifeline: A Free 24-hour crisis response helpline for people who are experiencing distress or despair, where trained counsellors will listen and help immediately on the phone and follow up with other support if necessary. Tel: 0808 808 8000 / www.lifelinehelpline.info  
  • Samaritans: A registered charity aimed at providing emotional support to anyone in emotional distress, struggling to cope, or at risk of suicide throughout UK and Ireland, often through their telephone helpline or online chat. Freephone: 116 123 / www.samaritans.org/

Find information on local men’s mental health organisations at: https://findhelpni.com/find-help-near-me/Mens-Support

References:

[1] https://osr.statisticsauthority.gov.uk/publication/review-of-mental-health-statistics-in-northern-ireland/pages/2/#:~:text=The%20latest%20official%20statistics%2C%20from,%25%20females)%5B2%5D.

[2] Priory: https://www.priorygroup.com/blog/40-of-men-wont-talk-to-anyone-about-their-mental-health

[3] Devine, P. (2024). Men’s Health in Numbers: Northern Ireland Men’s Health Report Card 2024. Dublin: Men’s Health Forum in Ireland. Available at: https://www.mhfi.org/MensHealthInNumbers3.pdf